Advice on weight loss, career and public speaking success. Four million people have attended Tony Robbins’ personal improvement lectures. 5 million people have bought his books and recordings of his speeches. You have also been a consultant to famous personalities like Bill Clinton, Mother Teresa, Oprah, Queen Diana and Nelson Mandela. A documentary film “I’m Not Your Guru” has also been made on you recently. Dr. Martin Nemko is a US-based columnist, career coach, author and radio host who works with people who are struggling in their personal lives or careers. You are a regular contributor to Psychology Today and have previously contributed to Time Magazine, US News, AOL and the San Francisco Chronicle. Martin holds a PhD in Educational Psychology from the University of California. You have written seven books and more than two hundred articles written by you have also been published. He has interviewed famous speakers, successful entrepreneurs and career coaches. Tony Robbins is one of the American speakers and authors interviewed by Martin Nemko.
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Marty Nemko: The majority of Americans are obese and regain weight despite dieting. According to a recent study conducted on the television program “The Big Loser”, 13 out of 14 people regained the weight despite excellent guidance. What advice would you give to these 13 people?
Tony Robbins: When a person is thinking about losing weight or quitting smoking, they should consider both physical and psychological aspects. If we talk about the psychological aspect, no person should ever make his goal that “I have to lose so-and-so kilos” but his goal should be “I have to regain my identity”. The goal of achieving one’s true identity and recognition provides relatively high motivation. So people trying to lose weight should always ask themselves, “What recognition will I gain by losing weight?”
Speaking more on the psychological side, I would like to say that for many people, food is also a source of comfort, deep connection and control. The source of control is such that when they see food they cannot control themselves and it becomes difficult for them to avoid it. So instead of eating, they should seek comfort, connection, and more powerful means of control, such as doing something creative, helping others, volunteering at a charity, etc. On the other hand, if we talk about the physical aspect, one thing should be remembered that when someone starves himself severely for weight loss, the body’s defense system wastes the calories in the body at a very slow rate. This makes losing weight even more difficult, and when you do extreme exercise to lose weight, chances are you’ll give up very quickly because either you.
If you lose weight slowly, such as 1/2 to 1 pound per week, balance exercise, and find a better alternative to rest, connection, and control, you’ll be able to lose weight much better. It’s a long-term potential plan to lose weight and keep it off that’s also fairly easy. The TV program you mention, in which 13 out of 14 people regained the weight, is largely due to the fact that these people temporarily lost the weight through starvation and vigorous exercise alone. What would be less for him because he knew that after that he would participate in a TV program? No one can live with this routine for a lifetime. I also believe another thing which is not so common is that some people can’t lose weight due to thyroid disorder. So people who want to lose weight should also get their thyroid tested and consult a specialist.
Marty Nemko: There are many people who have tried to lose weight many times in their life and now they have given up. What advice would you give to these people?
Tony Robbins: Humans naturally want to achieve pleasure and avoid pain, so when we fail in our goals, we try to protect ourselves from future failure. That is why we once again give up the struggle to achieve our goals and start blaming our willpower, education and training, intellect and appearance or appearance that maybe there is something lacking in me. We should live for a greater purpose. That goal can be anything like children, business or charity work. Such goals motivate us to achieve success. Strategy alone is not enough for success.
There are great strategies for everything from successful internet business to successful dating. But along with the strategy, giving yourself positive messages is also very important. Thinking that I have seen everything and can’t do anything now sets us up for failure. A positive message means thinking that failure is a part of life but successful people don’t give up until they find a way to succeed. The third aspect of success is our state of mind. In order to achieve success, we have to move ourselves out of the mindset of frustration or anger and into a mindset of determination, determination, openness and curiosity. The more we think positively instead of negatively, the better decisions we make and the more positive thinking becomes a habit. It is a natural process to give up but our passion is what keeps us going and trying.
I would like to put this in a more specific way. I have followed the following steps myself and have recommended them to millions of people. Until you stop exaggerating negative thoughts, your state of mind will not be positive. Read a book for at least half an hour a day or listen to audio recordings of books while driving or cleaning the house. Books written on the lives of successful and great people have taught me that even famous and famous people have faced failure but they never give up and keep going. Exercise daily, even if it’s just a five- or ten-minute walk two to four times a day. This process will transform your anger and fear into determination and courage. Movement changes emotions.
Research has shown that just two minutes of deep breathing or simply smiling can produce positive physical changes, such as a 15% reduction in the stress hormone cortisol, a happier mood, less anger, Feeling calm etc. Make role models of successful and exemplary people, especially those who have struggled throughout their lives and achieved success much later. Their life story and strategies can be useful for you and if such a person lives in your reality, it is even better. Take massive action. Many people don’t find a solution to a problem until they’ve tried everything, so keep learning until your skills are perfect. Think like a scientist and keep looking for different strategies to solve the problem. Find someone whose life circumstances are more difficult than yours and help them. It will make your life meaningful. My organization has provided food to millions of poor people and we are still trying.
Marty Nemko: You advise people to control their emotions, for example, instead of being angry or sad, you suggest doing something practical. What advice would you give to people who are angry or sad for a long time?
Tony Robbins: We all have an emotional path that we walk over and over again. Even if a person who is grumpy or sad by nature gets a good family or a good job, he will still go on his emotional path, especially when he faces a difficult time in life. I believe in following the path of positive attitude and gratitude in doing anything. To do this, I do a ten-minute exercise every morning. First I take a few long deep breaths. Then I think about three moments in my life that I am most grateful for and then feel them. Then I make my body stronger so that I can serve others. Finally, I think of three goals that I want to achieve that day, and that’s how I start each day. By repeating this process every day, I become more attracted to the things I achieve.