Mom! Kids tease me at school, they say how you dress, how fat you are, you are black, why do you always bring sandwiches in your lunch box, why don’t you buy things from the school canteen and eat them? Why do you eat lunch at home? You are so boring! You can’t play with us, go find your own kind of boring friend.
On returning from tuition, seminary, school, children often tell their mothers such things that they get worried. The same complaints remain with cousins or friends. Obviously, these seem like very small things, but the reality is that for an eight- to ten-year-old boy or girl, it becomes a matter of self-esteem.
Usually children are sensitive and they cry a lot on these things. Their self-confidence is also greatly affected and their personality becomes depressed due to which they are not able to pay full attention to their studies and do not perform well in the exams which affects their annual results. There is a bad effect and the poor boys and girls become victims of mental problems of any kind. This is the time that parents should never ignore these complaints as a small matter, but parents should pay attention to them immediately, so that the matter is resolved at the beginning and because of them, the child or These negative and undesirable things should never have negative effects on the girl’s personality. In this regard, first of all, explain five things to the children from the beginning.
- Do not stay with or play with the child who is teasing you, but ignore him. Play happily with your siblings or start playing with those who have become good friends at school, better to play with your peers which will have a positive effect.
- Control your anger, don’t express your anger on anyone’s words and don’t get upset over such trivial matters, if you do this, you may end up fighting and quarreling with your classmates. Similarly, never argue with such colleagues or friends and avoid beatings as much as possible.
- Be brave, ignore such children and move away from such a place i.e. sit a little away from them or go to another place where they are not, for example in your class or school playground if a child If you say something, go to another friend at a little distance or go and sit on another seat.
- Tell an adult, tell your mother, your teacher, your father or your school principal or headmistress etc about this situation, and that too without any fear or fear, in front of them. Keep your problem or those annoying boys or girls will bother you more and keep bothering you.
Try to talk to the bullies and try to stop them, but if this is not possible, talk to your parents, siblings or class teacher. However, if the problems persist, parents should approach the school administration and request that the child’s class section be changed. A change in the people around the child leads to a positive change in the child’s personality due to positive attitudes, because the problem is with the children who are annoying and with whom most of the time is spent, so the change of class section. There will be a lot of improvement. Also, make sure to tell your child that you are very good-looking and well-behaved, talented, because other children will not be as intelligent as you, so they tease you.
Tell stories or show videos to children, which will instill courage in children. Explain how to deal with negative people and negative situations, but watch each video first if the style or character described in it feels suitable for children, then show it to children, because it is a sensitive part of children’s personality development. This is a serious matter that needs to be addressed urgently. In order to build confidence in children, it is important to convince them that you are the best, that children who bully you are not good children, so it is better that those children do not play with you.
If children are taught some things or skills such as making paper boats or other objects by bending paper, painting with watercolors or wax colors etc., any unique ability that distinguishes the child from other children, his peers Or classmates will also want to learn it and thus those children will also become your child’s friends.